Friday, November 21, 2008

It happened again

There I was, sitting in a closet crying, thinking, "What's wrong with this picture?"

We each see things from our own perspective, and they obviously don't mesh.

We may not hear what the other is trying to say, but I certainly heard words I didn't want to. Again.

I'm too drained to deal with this now...

No life lessons here today, except for think before you speak. Make sense, not hurt. If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all.

3 comments:

Doug Kalman PhD, RD said...

dont accept it. let your boundaries be known wendy.

Anonymous said...

Hang in there. Tensions can run high during moments of life change & growth. It is easiest to unload negative emotions &/or to lash out on those that one is closest to... It is also unacceptable for a variety of reasons.
DO keep your boundary on this and communicate clearly why this is unproductive to resolving anything - i.e. the issue being dealt with, as well as the surrounding feelings of disagreement/disharmony since that is what you both seek. Hang in there!!

Wendy said...

I'm logical enough to know that name-calling, insults and generalizations don't help solve problems.

When that kind of thing happens, I've asked to move the discussion to another time/location (kids were present), but haven't been successful.

I've received retrospective acknowledgement that the choice of words used wasn't the best (during a conversation at an altogether different time), but haven't seen that that has helped when it matters.